REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 19

We're not talking about the dating scene or your future spouse...we're talking about you.  

LOVE RULES CHALLENGE

DAY 19:

KNOW YOUR

PERSONALITY TYPE. 

This #LoveRules may seem a little out of the box, but knowing your personality type is an important tool in loving others.  Why?

For starters, being self-aware will help you interact with other people.  When a "thinker" and a "feeler" interact, things can be really swell or really BAD. 

Identifying your personality and anticipating how it intersects with others is a great offensive tactic -- especially in potential conflict.

Some of our favorite personality assessments are: Myers-Briggs personality assessment (There's a general version that's free online) and Strengths Finder by Tom Rath. There are many more, but start with these two and dig into yourself a little so you can learn how to love deeper.

If you've taken either of these tests, what were your findings? 

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 17

LOVE RULES CHALLENGE

DAY 17: 

IT'S OKAY

TO DISAGREE

Life often has it’s share of disagreements and conflicts, so let’s talk about how to handle conflict and how conflict is actually a great way to love others.  

Watch the video below and don’t forget to answer the discussion questions! - 

Discussion Questions:

1.  What part of this video resonated with you and why?

2.  How do you typically respond to conflict and what, if anything, would you like to change about your response?

3.  How was conflict modeled in your family growing up and how is it handled in your current life?

See more at: http://refitrev.com/uncategorized/love-rules-its-okay-to-disagree/#sthash.JaEVUYxi.dpuf -AND- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irxzWNGcmL0

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 13

Today is all about the love touch. Sounds creepy...but it's not. 

#LoveRules Challenge Day 13: REJECT HANDSHAKES & SIDE HUGS.

Somewhere along the way, we let #FEAR get in the way of our daily #connections. We over-thought our intentions and the intentions of others. We worried about being too soft or misunderstood or too raw.

We decided that hugs needed to be "side hugs" only. Because (gasp!) "What if s/he thinks I'm attracted to him/her?!" 

We decided that #handshakes were more appropriate. "It's more professional" we told ourselves, "I don't want to appear too soft." Pride told us:  No #hugs allowed.

**As a result of this over-thinking, we find ourselves in this strange tension of wanting to offer a #lovetouch -- a physical expression of care, concern or closeness-- but fearful of what that touch might mean or more importantly, what it might make us FEEL.**

Today, express your love (friendship, human-ness) through physical touch. (Don't be dirty, people.) Just saying a hug has massive healing power and hyper-connection abilities. 

We live in a faux-connected world... technology makes us feel super close to one another, but our souls are hollow because screens are a barrier to the closeness we all desire.

So grab someone, today, and hug them.  Big ol' giant bear hug OR GROUP HUG!!!!! Or, at least do the 2-handed handshake ...the one where ya grab their hand with both of yours and squeeze, which says "Yes, I'm hugging your hand!"

SHARE & FOLLOW @refitrev + #loverules! 

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 10

LOVE CHALLENGE #10: TURN OFF THE "ME SHOW"

We're discussing an "OUCHIE" #loverules today on our blog!  Join the discussion! (click link below or paste http://refitrev.com/uncategorized/love-rules-turn-off-the-me-show/)

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 8

“Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: What! You too? I thought that I was the only one." 
--C. S. Lewis


LOVE CHALLENGE #8: 
CONNECT PEOPLE!

#Connection is powerful. It has the potential to demolish loneliness & create intimacy. For today's ‪#‎LoveRules‬, we want to challenge you guys to connect people to each other. If you see someone struggling with fear of________, hopelessness in a situation or drowning in the pool of mommy guilt...connect them with someone a little further along in the journey.

Connect people with similar interests, journeys, and stories. Comfort is the fruit of connection. People want to know that they are not the only ones out dealing with that particular issue or struggling with that exact form of fear.

Look for ways you can connect people to each other and be a catalyst for change!

LADIES, WANNA CONNECT? Maybe we can find our "Me, too!" moment! 

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 4

Are you schedule-driven? Type A? Have you ever been accused of being inflexible? Do you value process over people?

LOVE RULE #3: 

BE INTERRUPT-ABLE

While most of us would never publicly admit it, some of us have an unhealthy obsession with our appointment books. One small off-schedule issue and we're melting on the floor or throwing a tantrum. Wisdom: Customers/Clients are never an interruption. #PeopleMatterMore

When we make time for interruptions, we open ourselves up to opportunities to connect with those around us. Simple interruptions might include: 

• midnight snuggles from a child who can't sleep
• an impromptu late night movie well past your bedtime
• meeting co-wokers for coffee or a quick bite
• a last minute weekend getaway
• breakfast for dinner followed by family game night, etc.

How interruptable are you? Don't forget that on the other side of that schedule, people are waiting to connect with you! 

When you FOLLOW @refitrev REFIT® Revolution (on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, etc.) and SHARE this post on social media using the ‪#‎LoveRules‬ tag, you could win a huge love bomb in June!  Stay tuned...