Showing posts with label Community. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Community. Show all posts

Sunday, June 2, 2019

The Pineapple Connection

06.02.19.  For a sometimes-blogger who would rather blog about recipes, I've already asked myself if I plan to post for 100 days. 

In case you missed it, you are invited to join me for #100DaysofSummer praying and listening to God as we read through Lysa TerKeurst's EMBRACED: 100 Devotions to Know God is Holding You Close.

Umm, as for posting for 100 days? That decision would be... 
Let's see... What's the right word?
Got it! 
That decision to post for 100 days would be crazy! 
C-R-A-Yto-theZ.

Maybe not crazy for Lysa TerKeurst and not crazy for you, but for me that's one big, crazy challenge and could even fall under the "Read to Fall Asleep" tab. <snore> What if not a single soul reads it? What would that have benefited? What if I skip posting for a day or more? What if I had made the ambitious decision to post 100 days after drinking too much caffeine? What if it were really God who planted the idea in my noggin?

The rain slapping the bedroom window woke me before the alarm, which yielded extra time, to read Day 2 devo before I was out the door to church. Grabbing a quick prayer for God to use Lysa's words and the scripture references to speak to my spirit, I dove into "The Pineapple Principle." When you get the book or listen to the audiobook for yourself, you'll understand the why for the chapter title. 

This is to be my year for cultivation. Cultivating business and ministry and fitness opportunities and relationships. Five months and two days into 2019, has been an amazing adventure by training for my first sprint triathlon, appropriately named First-TRI, and running The Flying Pig Half Marathon with Terry in Cincinnati which was an epic meet-up with Coach Jenny Hadfield and around 60 members and spouses of her online community known as The Challenge. I have spent time and energy to cultivate new classes for REFIT® and REV+FLOW in a new women's gym. In addition to working with Calcutta Mercy, Terry and I put our noses to ye olde grind stone to crank up the intensity with the ministry we quietly launched in 2016, to honor, encourage and connect with ministry and business leaders and their spouses. MVP Leadership Group is that 2016 dream-baby with the website launching June 5.

All of this cultivation is turning up the fallow ground for my own Pineapple (of a different variety) Principle: Authentic Connection.

My personality can be categorized as a Social-Introvert. Clinically, I'm sure it has a name. My friend, Cammy, suggests reading Susan Cain's book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking, where the author uses the term "socially poised introvert." For me, being 100% introvert 24/7/365 will never be possible due to being in the public, accompanying my hubby to minister in churches, loving people and leading fitness classes. All of which demands being socially connected. 

Many people I know want authenticity to lace fingers with connection and stroll easily down the boulevard. What causes my abs to tighten, is they desire this authentic connection for me in multiple small groups and in church. This intersection feels more like being in the crosshairs of a rifle! My question is why is this so important to them?

My family is pretty private. We have a small handful of friends who have been and remain confidants. We reciprocate. In the past, "living in authenticity" with a tribe was not safe and could be used -even twisted- against a ministry couple. As a result, my habit of privacy developed a tough skin around my spirit. People knew I was approachable because I wore a smile. They trusted I would not compromise their authenticity because I am proven to be safe and treat their authenticity with care. But in turn, I would not trust people enough to share my insides. Transparency is scary.

As I continue to experience others in authentic connection or authentic community, I feel it is important to be known and loved for who we are. This doesn't excuse bad behavior or sin. This connection is about trust and having the courage to be known and loved unconditionally. It's about letting others speak truth in an honest affection where exposure feels safe instead of compromising.

So, here's authentic me cutting away the pineapple skin just enough to connect with you, the reader. God has used my 2019 word, CULTIVATE, to open myself to others as did the early church in Acts 2:42. It's a process. I'm not exactly all in, but it's a start.

"They spent their time learning from the leaders, and they were like a caring family to each other. They shared meals, together, and prayed about all the things, together" (Acts 2:42 SAM translation).

By the way, the tough skin of a pineapple is actually called the epicarp. When that is opened, the tender, sweet insides are exposed to the ones who love. As for posting daily for 100 days, we'll see how that panned out in 98 days.

If you can relate, somehow, to any of this, please drop me a note, below. 

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Soul Feed

Weigh her soul.


Under nourished. 


What does she want?


She wants the burden lifted. She wants flight. 


Binging on empty calories from hours of social media and bubblegum books have left her sluggish. Not all, but some songs are sprinkled with sour lyrics and saucy themes. With too much salt, those seemingly tasty television series do little, but increase her thirst for that something she cannot quite figure out. Movies! Now, that's the dish to order! She's hungry and takes two...no, three slices with extra cheese!

Her insides want to escape the current mood which has attached itself from too much bad news and sad tales and of worldwide need. But, what does she need?

She needs to feast on the good and the whole and the sustaining. But, this soul is too weak, too numb, too groggy from the recent greasy, carb-load and, finally, succumbs to sleep.


Deep thirst awakens her soul. With focus, she is intentional to quench it with the writings of
others' books and blogs who, too, unwittingly starved their souls and are back to wholesome choices. Her soul drains the entire glass until the need for breath forces her to gasp and take search for sustenance. Ahhh.

"Taste and see." Mmmm, there it is! Soul food! She is satisfied with simple fare perfectly seasoned. Resolve is strengthened with this whole grain goodness of the Word. Desire for study with community is iron-fortified. Her soul is joyfully satiated! This soul feed is lasting, yet, resets the appetite for truth and prudence and living water.

The Dessert Menu: (suggested books & media & resources)
"A wise person is hungry for knowledge, while the fool feeds on trash." -Proverbs 15:14 NLT
"An intelligent person is always eager to take in more truth; fools feed on fast-food fads and fancies." -Proverbs 15:14 MSG
"But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life." -John 4:14 NLT

If this post resonates with your soul, please comment, below. I sure would like to hear from you.

Monday, June 22, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 22

We hope this #LoveRules is refreshing and filled with freedom.

LOVE RULES CHALLENGE
DAY 22: 
REGARDING MISTAKES 
... IT'S OK TO MAKE & TELL!

It's easy to tell people about successes, good news and goals reached.  It gives every one a chance to applaud with you.

But people also need to hear about your mistakes.

One of the REFIT® #truths that we like to repeat again and again is this: PEOPLE ARE INTRIGUED BY PERFECTION, BUT CHANGED BY AUTHENTICITY. When we let others into the "real" of our lives -- everything changes for the better and many great lessons can be learned.

Our lives are often shared publicly and while we love rejoicing in the good, people need to see our #struggle. 

One of the most common hesitations we hear from our new REFIT® instructors is that they're afraid they're going to mess up.  Guess what?  IT'S TRUE.  Mistakes are bound to happen, and the best response is to laugh and keep on going!

So feel free to makes mistakes and feel free to share your mistakes with others.  It really is a liberating experience! AND, feel free to FOLLOW & SHARE @refitrev + #LoveRules!

Thursday, June 18, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 18


Every single person on this planet has a gift ... a superpower‬
Not one of us was created without that "special something" that blesses another individual.

But here the thing about a gift: it's only a gift if it's SHARED. Otherwise, it's just a possession.

LOVE RULES CHALLENGE DAY 18:
SHARE YOUR GIFT!

So whatever your talent, skill or attribute is, SHARE IT & share the joy with those around you! Someone is waiting...more opportunities for community!
FOLLOW & SHARE posts from REFIT Revolution (on all social media) adding #‎LoveRules‬ to be entered into the June Love Bomb‬ drawing!

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 17

LOVE RULES CHALLENGE
DAY 17: 
IT'S OKAY
TO DISAGREE

Life often has it’s share of disagreements and conflicts, so let’s talk about how to handle conflict and how conflict is actually a great way to love others.  

Watch the video below and don’t forget to answer the discussion questions! - 


Discussion Questions:

1.  What part of this video resonated with you and why?
2.  How do you typically respond to conflict and what, if anything, would you like to change about your response?
3.  How was conflict modeled in your family growing up and how is it handled in your current life?
See more at: http://refitrev.com/uncategorized/love-rules-its-okay-to-disagree/#sthash.JaEVUYxi.dpuf -AND- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irxzWNGcmL0

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 15


LOVE RULE CHALLENGE DAY 15: 
DON'T ACCEPT. EMBRACE.

Don't get us wrong, acceptance is a good thing. In fact, it's such a good thing that acceptance is a key concept in the REFIT® community. But our‪#‎LoveRules‬ for today is asking you to go one...step...further...and EMBRACE.

Accepting different values, beliefs or ideas will bring people into the fold, but embracing those differences will KEEP them there. This is instrumental in building community. REALLY, THIS IS ALL ABOUT LOVE...EMBRACE THE PERSON!

Think about these two statements: 

"I accept your quirkiness."
"I embrace your quirkiness." 

Doesn't the latter statement feel much more empowering? Now, here's the hard question: What distinguishes "accepting" from "embracing"? Hoping you can help answer this...leave a comment below and share your thoughts!

Tuesday -June 16- @REFITREV will be LIVE on the Periscope‬ App at 1pm CST discussing our thoughts on the differences between these two concepts. Be sure to follow REFIT® REVOLUTION (on facebook, twitter, periscope, instagram, blog) and join in on the discussion!

Saturday, June 13, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 13

Today is all about the love touch. Sounds creepy...but it's not. 

#LoveRules Challenge Day 13: REJECT HANDSHAKES & SIDE HUGS.

Somewhere along the way, we let #FEAR get in the way of our daily #connections. We over-thought our intentions and the intentions of others. We worried about being too soft or misunderstood or too raw.

We decided that hugs needed to be "side hugs" only. Because (gasp!) "What if s/he thinks I'm attracted to him/her?!" 

We decided that #handshakes were more appropriate. "It's more professional" we told ourselves, "I don't want to appear too soft." Pride told us:  No #hugs allowed.

**As a result of this over-thinking, we find ourselves in this strange tension of wanting to offer a #lovetouch -- a physical expression of care, concern or closeness-- but fearful of what that touch might mean or more importantly, what it might make us FEEL.**

Today, express your love (friendship, human-ness) through physical touch. (Don't be dirty, people.) Just saying a hug has massive healing power and hyper-connection abilities. 

We live in a faux-connected world... technology makes us feel super close to one another, but our souls are hollow because screens are a barrier to the closeness we all desire.

So grab someone, today, and hug them.  Big ol' giant bear hug OR GROUP HUG!!!!! Or, at least do the 2-handed handshake ...the one where ya grab their hand with both of yours and squeeze, which says "Yes, I'm hugging your hand!"

SHARE & FOLLOW @refitrev + #loverules! 

Thursday, June 11, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 10

LOVE CHALLENGE #10: TURN OFF THE "ME SHOW"

We're discussing an "OUCHIE" #loverules today on our blog!  Join the discussion! (click link below or paste http://refitrev.com/uncategorized/love-rules-turn-off-the-me-show/)

Monday, June 8, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 8


Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: What! You too? I thought that I was the only one.
--C. S. Lewis


LOVE CHALLENGE #8: 
CONNECT PEOPLE!

#Connection is powerful. It has the potential to demolish loneliness & create intimacy. For today's ‪#‎LoveRules‬, we want to challenge you guys to connect people to each other. If you see someone struggling with fear of________, hopelessness in a situation or drowning in the pool of mommy guilt...connect them with someone a little further along in the journey.

Connect people with similar interests, journeys, and stories. Comfort is the fruit of connection. People want to know that they are not the only ones out dealing with that particular issue or struggling with that exact form of fear.

Look for ways you can connect people to each other and be a catalyst for change!

LADIES, WANNA CONNECT? Maybe we can find our "Me, too!" moment! 

Sunday, June 7, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 7


LOVE CHALLENGE #6: 
BE VULNERABLE. 
NOT VOMIT. 


Why is this part of ‪#‎LoveRules‬? Because even the best things need some guardrails.

Being vulnerable in itself is good and necessary, but sometimes we need to think about HOW to be vulnerable in order to share what we need to share while blessing the people around us. 

A huge factor is the size of the group. If you're surrounded by a large group of people, it's best to keep what you're saying CLEAR and concise, because other people probably want to share and participate, too.

Another thing to note is that your community WANTS to be with you and really understand what's going on, but if you share your entire life's woes in front of the whole group, you're not leaving people room to ask questions and continue the conversation in a way that's helpful to you.

The best thing you can do is to process what you feel with God, your best friend, mom, etc. before sharing with anyone else. When we process with a close one first, we're then free to share just for the joy of being supported and known by #community! The best part about all of this is that you won't regret your vulnerability, and you have a whole family of ‪#‎revolutionaries‬ ready to rally around you! Give it a try!

SHARE this post on social media (instagram, twitter, facebook, pinterest, etc.) adding @refitrev + #LoveRules and you could get love-bombed!

Saturday, June 6, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 6

Today's #LoveRules has two parts to it, but you can handle it! 

LOVE CHALLENGE #5: ASK A QUESTION. THEN LISTEN.

It's one thing to ask someone how someone is doing, but it's a whole other ballgame to ask an intentional question about someone's life. In getting to know people, it's easy to keep asking "How are you?" and get the weekly surface update, but never get any deeper. What a game changer it could be if we asked people REAL questions, like:

**What's something you're excited about? 
**How did you feel when ______ happened? 
**What do you need most from other people this week? 
When we ask real questions, we'll build real #community. 

The second and KEY aspect is to listen, and #listen WELL. Listening is NOT -thinking through what you're going to say next -zooming in on something on their face -mentally writing your to-do list -trying to come up with advice to give them before they're even done talking.

That last one is sneaky because it definitely feels like listening. Listening is giving your full, selfless attention to try to understand what someone else is saying. Listening is remembering. 

Think about what your specific community could look like if everyone involved asked REAL questions and became REAL listeners. 
What kind of questions are you asking? How are you responding to others? 

SHARE on social media adding @refitrev + #LoveRules. You could get a great big ole Love Bomb valued at $100 dropped on ya!
Wanna know more about REFIT? Just ASK!

Friday, June 5, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 5


This might be the most obvious #LoveRules in our series, but it's worth mentioning.

LOVE RULE #4: COMMUNICATE

If we're being honest, many people are flat out bad at communicating. When lines of communication are broken, you know what else is broken? Relationships.

Relationships are crucial to community, which means communication -- healthy communication -- must happen. A whole series on this topic alone, so we'll offer this very broad umbrella statement about communication: SEEK TO UNDERSTAND.

Talk things through? Great. Defend your position? Great. Agree to disagree? Great. But more than any of these things -- seek to understand. Understanding is how #LoveRules a community.

Whatcha think?

Feel free to FOLLOW @refitrev (on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and, now, Periscope) & REPOST/SHARE using #loverules! You could win a Love Bomb valued at $100!

Thursday, June 4, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 4


Are you schedule-driven? Type A? Have you ever been accused of being inflexible? Do you value process over people?

LOVE RULE #3: 
BE INTERRUPT-ABLE

While most of us would never publicly admit it, some of us have an unhealthy obsession with our appointment books. One small off-schedule issue and we're melting on the floor or throwing a tantrum. Wisdom: Customers/Clients are never an interruption. #PeopleMatterMore
When we make time for interruptions, we open ourselves up to opportunities to connect with those around us. Simple interruptions might include: 
  • midnight snuggles from a child who can't sleep
  • an impromptu late night movie well past your bedtime
  • meeting co-wokers for coffee or a quick bite
  • a last minute weekend getaway
  • breakfast for dinner followed by family game night, etc.

How interruptable are you? Don't forget that on the other side of that schedule, people are waiting to connect with you! 

When you FOLLOW @refitrev REFIT® Revolution (on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, etc.) and SHARE this post on social media using the ‪#‎LoveRules‬ tag, you could win a huge love bomb in June!  Stay tuned...

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 3


This is a hard one, y'all. No one said that ‪#‎LoveRules‬ were easy, and today's rule is most definitely not. All month long we're discussing ways to BUILD COMMUNITY and intentionally love others, and this rule might not seem like a Love Rule, but it is.

LOVE RULE #2: 
BE WILLING TO 
BE CHALLENGED

Whether you're in a **leadership position, an **online influencer, a **fitness instructor, a **mom/dad, an **employee, or **a teacher...you must willing to be challenged. Why? Because in that place of challenge you GROW...and so do others! 

Look, it's hard to admit you're wrong. >:(  It's hard to receive negative feedback. It's difficult to watch your competition soar. It's uncomfortable to disagree with a co-worker. But in each of these situations, a deeper understanding and wisdom takes root and allows you to grow in the right direction.

Your willingness to be challenged will produce growth, courage and, quite possibly, forgiveness. There's something endearing when others witness you yield instead of demand rights due to your position. 

Read more of this REFIT® #LoveRules on their blog: refitrev.com/uncat…/love-rule-2-be-willing-to-be-challenged/

Join me and other ladies at Life Assembly in Mt. Juliet, Tennessee, on Mondays - 6p & Fridays - 9a for an hour of building community & muscle!

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

REFIT Love Rules Challenge Day 2


REFIT® is a fitness program that builds community. One way we build community is by loving people. 
Sounds simple, right? WRONG.

Loving people can often be messy, and that's why this month we're sharing some of the ‪#‎LoveRules‬ that power our community.

Love Rule #1: MAKE EYE CONTACT.

Eye contact is hard to get these day, and often harder to give. But eye contact can be one of the most meaningful displays of love you can demonstrate. Be intentional with your eye contact this month in the following ways:

--The next time you're on an elevator with a stranger, look at them and say hello. 
--When you're at dinner with the family, put the phone away and look at the person talking. 
--If you owe someone an apology or appreciation, look them in the eye and give it. 
--When checking out at the grocery store, look your cashier in the eye and tell him thank you.

Eye contact can be powerful and meaningful, so don't let this form of communication become obsolete. Give the look of love to someone who needs it today!

**Don't forget that by sharing this post, you could win a really cool Love Bomb valued at $100! Here's how to enter:
➡ Follow & mention @REFITREV
➡ Share this post on social media
➡ Use the hashtag #LoveRules

See? Sharing the love is super easy--so go do it!

Monday, June 1, 2015

REFIT LoveRules Challenge Day 1

Most know I'm a certified REFIT® Instructor, but did ya know REFIT® is more than just fitness? 

REFIT® is a community in which love rules. That may sound strange coming from a fitness company, but here's the deal:

FITNESS CHANGES BODIES,
 COMMUNITY CHANGES HEARTS.


  • We believe the heart is a muscle and a soul, we focus on both. One way we focus on the heart as a soul is by building community within our fitness classes. We're often asked "HOW do you build community?" and this month we are answering that question by talking about cultivating a community in which #LoveRules.
  • Each day, we'll provide practical tips on how to love those around you and go deeper in your connections with people. We think everyone could use a few more #LoveRules in life, right?
  • OH AND JUST WAIT! If you SHARE the posts on social media (facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest, etc.) and use the hashtag #LoveRules and tag @refitrev, throughout the month of June, you'll be entered to win a huge love bomb filled with a $50 gift card to the REFIT® shop, an exclusive (not even available online, yet) REFIT water bottle and a "favorites" gift from each REFIT® Founder (Angela, Catherine & Emily = ACE). That's a whole lotta love, y'all!

We can't wait to make this #LoveRules journey with you this month! To get yourself entered into the challenge, GO ---> FOLLOW @refitrev on social media platforms (facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest, etc.) and...
---> SHARE this and other REFIT® posts you see today (and each day on social media) using #LoveRules and @refitrev.

Stay tuned...

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Its the Little Things: Community

Flying over the patchwork quilt
of farming somewhere over Colorado 
Transposed the days of the Little Things to breathe-in and include the joy of travel! To stay put in one place and never experience other cultures, food or air would leave me feeling suffocated. Even as I type that last line, my respiration quickens to a small implosion of panic. My personality is wired to explore and experience and my husband is gracious to oblige speaking my love language.

As I write, seated on a plane next to me is a fellow-Nashvillian-replant. She from Portland, Oregon, and me from - welpst, all over. 

After babies and 52 years in one state, she relocated to our little city of hospitality about eight years ago and loves it. However, it's the personal history with friends and locale she misses from home. She longs for the instant connectivity of falling into easy conversation with a former high school classmate or giving directions to the favorite coffee spot known to locals. She skis and misses the quick one hour to perfect, snowy slopes.

I get it.

Although being from everywhere and nowhere, I enjoy my longtime association with Music City and the nooks out of sight from tourists, but am eager to direct the tourists to my favorite locals' haunt. 

There is community in living in one place where neighbors check on neighbors leaving veggies on the porch and friends become family when Thanksgiving finds the road too long and the holiday weekend too short. And, if you're blessed to have them nearby, real family hugs you tightly each time you see each other, picks up the mail and takes care of your dog while you're away.

See, I do get it.

I will always adore the thrill of new places and the journey to get there, but am growing to appreciate there's truly no place like home.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

I'm Fit Possible!

After participating in a hashtag conversation on Twitter, an online runner-friend suggested I check into the social media community "I'm Fit Possible." So, I did and liked what I saw!

Addiction is such a strong word for all the fun I have on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and blogging! With my recent pursuit of a healthy lifestyle involving fitness and nutrition, I can't help but talk about it and share on social media about what I'm constantly learning, whether or not people comment, email or retweet. But, when someone does respond, OH MY GOODNESS! I squeal and jump up and down on the inside (sometimes, on the outside, too!).

I'm Fit Possible seemed like a perfect fit for my <ahem> addiction pairing my sharing with a healthy lifestyle as an "Ambassador!" Think of that! Me? 


I completed the online "I'm Fit Possible Ambassador Application," which is more like a simple questionnaire, uploaded a photo, clicked the submit button and that was that. In less than a week I received this response from the founder, Tara Gusmanis...
 I got a sweet, glass thermos!

"...You're in! Yay! Congratulations on becoming an I'm Fit Possible Ambassador! You are JUST the kind of person we need to make our community that much better!"

Much squealing and jumping ensued! 

What I had shared only with my hubby and a dear friend was my desire to become a wellness ambassador, but felt it may be a year before I would realize that goal. You do not have to become an ambassador to enjoy the IFP Community on social media and events. 

Am I a professional? Do I know all the answers? Nah. But, I'm enthusiastic about spreading the word and doing what comes naturally, talking and cheering for others! It IS possible to start as a late bloomer on a quest for a healthier self and be successful! 

We are social, big hearted, creative fitness enthusiasts.
We believe in unplugging and heading outside.
We believe that the best workouts are the ones done with family and friends. 
We try and sweat every day, but if we don't we won't sweat about it.
We love to try new things and if we love something, you'll hear about it. 
Oh and smiles, hugs and high fives are not negotiable.

If this sounds like you, come hang out online with other real people. Who knows? Perhaps you'll become an I'm Fit Possible Ambassador, too!

#ImFitPossible #andSoAreYOU!

"Sam"