Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Pride Abuse

Have you known of people in substance abuse? Individuals who are addicted to a chemical altering their mind, mood and behavior. After some time, the signs of abuse begin to appear outwardly on the body. Their body and brain are so accustomed to the intoxicating properties they cannot function without the next fix. Without intervention, this person will die.

Just as addictive is pride abuse. These abusers seek glory for themselves and live off the high until the next opportunity they can feed their gluttonous need for pride. Sadly, pride abusers fail to see the effects on their lives and on those around them.

How to detect Pride Abuse:
  • A pride abuser is territorial. He/She dislikes sharing anything from the spotlight to authorship of an idea to the same room with someone who has similar talents and comparable strengths.
  • A pride abuser is quick to interject self-praise into conversations, especially when he/she feels under-appreciated or under-praised or someone else is currently receiving the attention.
  • A pride abuser is known by his/her mistreatment of others usually from a pedestal of power as in a leadership position. Rarely are the words like please and thank you uttered, much less any verbal attaboys. From some inner reasoning, this is viewed as a sign of weakness.
  • A pride abuser will never ask for help...unless under duress.
  • A pride abuser does not have healthy relationships. Most relationships are surface and do not extend past how they can serve the abuser. 
  • A pride abuser feels entitled and deserving. All to often, this is expressed in excessive and extravagant indulgences. Typically, these self-indulgent treats are paired with ostentatious displays.
  • A pride abuser will cleverly circumvent protocol or authority to push their idea ahead in attempt to get ownership or praise. Abusers are smart cookies! 
  • A pride abuser's motivations are seeded in jealousy and a fear of losing status.

"Pride can disqualify us from long-term, effective ministry [service or employment]
quicker and more permanently than just about anything."
~Jodi Detrick, author~

How do we combat Pride Abuse in our own lives?
  1. Recognize it and deal with it. Trying to deny it exists or passing it off as talent, confidence or taking initiative will cause the abuse to require more "fixes" to maintain the high.
  2. Serve others quietly. Ask how you can assist with another's task list. Eventually someone will ask you, too!
  3. Keep your mouth shut unless it's to give the praise to others. Boasting can deflate a good deed or helping hand.
Pride, as we all know, can have a useful place of balance in our lives. It is when pride tips the scale in its favor that use becomes abuse.

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Smiling at 50: New Year's Goal Accomplished!

(photo by Dane Allen)
I did it! Actually, we did it!

Before the clock struck 2014, my friend snapped a pic of my goal for the new year to run a 10K, 6.2 miles. If for no other reason but that photo, I had to accomplish this goal. 

(photo by Giovanna Gomez)

I downloaded one of the free 10K training plans from Coach Jenny Hadfield and made my plan of attack allowing for injuries, schedule and weather. As fate would have it, Tennessee experienced one of the coldest and longest winters on record further proven by our gas and electric bills.

Another reason to accomplish the goal is my age. I will be the big 5-0 years old on June 28 at 8:08am! That's half of a century! Crazy!

My honey was the epitome of encouragement at every step. His words spurred me to get up and go for it when I wanted to stay snuggly and warm in the 20 degree weather. He warned how I would regret not cross-training in Zumba.
Our ImpACT Challenge 2014
Race Bib I wore on my back
for the 10K

Further drive came with the ImpACT Challenge 2014 online group of like-minded friends pursuing weekly fitness and nutrition challenges for a healthier lifestyle. Each week starting in January, we set personal ACTion goals with several challengers deciding on either a 5K or 10K in or near April. 

A 10K is not run just once, but run many times in training prior to the actual event. I chose to run intervals building anaerobic threshold, strengthening muscle and endurance; thus preventing injuries. My "run" is really more like a slow shuffle and I'm a newbie at running so these are truly baby steps forming me into a better athlete. It sounds weird to classify myself as an athlete, still a hard-fought category I have right to claim.
Race swag, bib & chip
On April 12, 2014, together we decided to run "our" race the way we trained and not in competition with any other person or time. My legs were tired from the over-zealous session of Zumba the day before. It's only 6.2 miles, but it's my first; therefore, it feels like 26.2.

The best feeling was to cross the Purity MOOsic City Dairy Dash 10K Finish Line with my hubby, hand-in-hand! My time was slower by several minutes. The next best feeling was to have family and friends cheering us at the finish line!
(photo by Emily Allen)

Now that my New Year's Goal has been accomplished, I've been asked what is next. There are a couple more items, my honey and I want to check off the Smiling at 50 List, but we believe we will continue to run toward more finish lines!

During the timeline of the ImpACT Challenge, I became an I'm Fit Possible Ambassador! Another goal reached! More on that, to come!